How to Fake a Clean House

I think the goal of most homemakers is to have their home be a place of peace and rest for their families and to have everything clean and in order.  But the reality is that having a houseful of small children creates a huge mess every day.  Most of my day is spent just keeping up with the destruction and many household chores go neglected.

It's not that I don't try to keep a clean house.  But, the last time I scrubbed my shower, my 2 year old was in the kitchen spilling a whole gallon of milk on the floor.  It can feel overwhelming and hopeless when everything I do gets undone.

I've had to let go of a lot.  I've made peace with this season of my life and this has become my new motto:

When we moved into our new home (after 7 years of praying and patience) all of our family and friends were so excited for us and would just "stop in to see the house".  I was mortified.  It felt like nearly every day I was giving a tour of every room.

We still had boxes to unpack and were trying to find places for things.  I would apologize for the mess as I kicked toys out of the way across the floor.

Of course they still loved us, mess and all, but it was a humbling experience for me.  It's been months since then and I can't blame our mess on moving anymore.

We have a busy home full of life, and life is messy.

I wanted to share with you a few tricks that I've learned that keep my house looking a little cleaner than it actually is.

• Keep it all behind closed doors

It's a really simple thing, but closing the doors to your closets can hide a lot of clutter and bring much cleaner lines to your walls.  Don't forget your pantry and laundry room and any bedroom messes that you want to hide.

The same goes for cabinet doors and dresser drawers.  Taking a second to close them fully really makes your space look more finished.

No time to scrub your bathtub?  Close the shower curtain!  Your bathroom will look instantly cleaner.

• Make your bed

Our beds take up most of the space in our bedrooms and an unmade bed can make even a clean room look messy.  Take a minute to fluff the pillows and smooth out your comforter, it really does make a difference in your whole room.

• Clear off the clutter

I realize this sounds like cleaning and I promised you we were only faking a clean house.  It may take some cleaning to begin with, but then keeping it that way will be much easier.

Take a look at your bathroom counter top.  Did you leave out your makeup, hair products and deodorant for the world to see?  Find a place to store these things out of sight, under the sink or in your medicine cabinet.  What really needs to be at your sink?  Hand soap and a towel.  I even hide our toothbrushes. 

Keeping less on your counter tops means less to move when you do actually get around to wiping it down.

Look at the other flat surfaces in your home.  Are they covered in nick-knacks and other things that are just collecting dust?  I'm not a minimalist and I do like to decorate my home, but sometimes less is more.  You will be much more willing to dust the furniture when there is less to move.

• Tame the paper

Even in our digital world, life comes with a lot of paper.  You can eliminate some of what comes into your home by banking online and opting out of receiving offers in the mail.  I have to admit I am rather old fashioned and prefer to write out checks for my bills, but I know a lot of people who love going paperless.

When I get the mail I sort through it right away.   Junk mail goes right into the recycling bin.  Magazines and catalogs that I want to read go into a basket that I keep by the couch.  Bills go where I store them.  Grocery store circulars and coupons to clip have their own place too.  Invitations and reminders are pinned to the bulletin board. 
Nothing is left to pile up.

• A little prevention goes a long way

There are a few rules in our house that help to keep the mess down.  I've taught the kids that certain toys are not allowed in the living room.  It is mostly because I have a toddler that puts everything in her mouth and I want there to be a safe place for her to play.  Legos and Polly Pockets are banished to the big kids' rooms, and my living spaces are much cleaner.

I've also trained the kids to take off their shoes when they walk through the door.  If they are especially dirty they have to come in the back door.  It has saved so much mud (and we have a lot of mud!) from being tracked all over my house.

We only eat in the kitchen.  Our kids are messy eaters so keeping it confined to one place saves me from cleaning up crumbs and spills all over the house.

• Only clean what bugs you

I can overlook the toys on the floor if I know there is no dirt or food on the floor under all the toys.  It has probably come from years of having babies crawling around. 

I do vacuum at least once a day and keep my kitchen floor swept, but only the dirty parts.  I focus on the high traffic areas and save the furniture moving for days when I have more time.  I spot clean the sticky messes and only mop when I'm really ambitious.

Maybe you are different, maybe fingerprints on your windows is especially disgusting to you.  Clean what you need to to keep your sanity and save the rest for later.


I realize that by sharing my dirty little secrets everyone who comes in my house will probably look a little harder for the cobwebs in the corners and maybe even peek behind my shower curtain.  That's ok.  I'm not prefect.  I would never trade this busy, beautiful life to have a perfectly clean house again. 

24 weeks...

Ignore the crazy hair...it was a long day!

I thought I should get around to sharing a picture of my baby belly...

The Joys of Raising Boys

At my last ultrasound we learned that we are having another baby boy! 

Afterwards, we were blessed to be able to make a date of it.  As we sat down over dinner, we discussed baby names and bedroom arrangements.  And then I stopped.  I took a deep breath and asked my husband, "Am I really a mom of 4 boys?"

It wasn't that I was unhappy or disappointed at all, I just wondered if I was really cut out for all this.

I thought of all the moms of many boys that I knew and they all seemed so much better at this than me.  My mother-in-law had 4 boys herself and she is the most patient woman I know.  I've failed at that one.

Then there are the moms who are OK with pet snakes and spiders in the house.  The moms who join right into the burping contests and football games.  And the ones who run their crew like a drill sergent.

And then there's me...

I'm petite and girly.  I don't think my presence commands authority.  I don't deal well with bugs and snakes and other critters, and I really can't handle blood.

I think there's a good reason why we can't choose the gender of our children.  We tend to see things just in the moment.  God sees our lives and the generations to come.

This season of my life will be full of dirt and scrapped knees and finding rocks in my dryer.  But it's also an incredible honor.  God has given us a house full of boys to raise into men of integrity.  He has given us a holy responsibility to teach them to have hearts of compassion and respect.  To be hard working and gentle.  To be protectors and warriors.

Am I ready for this?  Probably not, but God has chosen this path for me and I know that He will prepare me for the journey.

Raising boys is an adventure but it is also full of the sweetest moments.  There is nothing more comforting than hugs from my little boys, hearing "I wuv you Mommy!", and seeing a vase full of fresh-picked dandelions on my windowsill.

One day my mama's boys will be men and I will miss these busy days.  Today I am so thankful that God chose this adventure for my life.

Love's Simplicity

I just wanted to share this short video with you.  It is a documentary that was made about my sister-in-law, Suzanne.  I think it summarizes everything that I want A Simple Heart for Home to be.  I am inspired every time I go to her house.  It is a tiny home, but so full of love and joy.  There is always an open door and a cup of coffee waiting for me. 

She never complains.  I was so stressed trying to fit our family of 7 in our 900 square foot home, and then I would see what she lives with and how she makes it work.  I felt so spoiled and humbled.  Her home is a beautiful place of blessing, to her husband and family, and to everyone who enters.

I hope you are encouraged and inspired...

Love's Simplicity